Grave Diggers

Grave diggers dig their graves with what they say; they use words as shovels.  They say the wrong things, to the wrong people - or perhaps just the wrong things to the wrong person... or perhaps just the wrong thing to the wrong person, and in so doing, they dig their grave.  They remove themselves as a lively member in that relationship.  Their words make them "dead."  Sun-Tzu says that the angry can be made happy again, but the dead cannot be brought to life.  It is perhaps because of the intensity of the anger that grave diggers cause that makes them incapable of resurrection.